THERE are hermit souls that live withdrawn In the place of their self-content; There are souls like stars, that dwell apart, In a fellowless firmament; There are pioneer souls that blaze the paths Where highways never ran- But let me live by the side of the road And be a friend to man.
Let me live in a house by the side of the road Where the race of men go by- The men who are good and the men who are bad, As good and as bad as I. I would not sit in the scorner's seat Nor hurl the cynic's ban- Let me live in a house by the side of the road And be a friend to man.
I see from my house by the side of the road By the side of the highway of life, The men who press with the ardor of hope, The men who are faint with the strife, But I turn not away from their smiles and tears, Both parts of an infinite plan- Let me live in a house by the side of the road And be a friend to man.
I know there are brook-gladdened meadows ahead, And mountains of wearisome height; That the road passes on through the long afternoon And stretches away to the night. And still I rejoice when the travelers rejoice And weep with the strangers that moan, Nor live in my house by the side of the road Like a man who dwells alone.
Let me live in my house by the side of the road, Where the race of men go by- They are good, they are bad, they are weak, they are strong, Wise, foolish - so am I. Then why should I sit in the scorner's seat, Or hurl the cynic's ban? Let me live in my house by the side of the road And be a friend to man.
I love the sentiment in this poem. I aspire to be like the speaker in this poem. We live in a world where isolation is becoming more and more the norm. We could use more people that simply are a “friend to man.” We need fewer who take the easy road of “sit[ting] in the scorner’s seat” and more who realize that “[we] are good, [we] are bad, [we] are weak, [we] are strong.”
“Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he’s been robbed. The fact is that most putts don’t drop. Most beef is tough. Most children grow up to be just ordinary people. Most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration. Most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. . . .
“Life is like an old-time rail journey—delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders, and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride.”
I probably spent way too much time today watching the Kavanaugh confirmation hearing. I watched the entire hearing with Dr Ford and then the entire hearing with Judge Kavanaugh. I know that this has been discussed from virtually every angle imaginable. I simply have two thoughts to share. There were valid points made by both Democrats and Republicans at today’s hearing. After today’s hearing, I believe the right thing for the senate to do, and by implication the Republican majority which controls the process, is to delay the confirmation for one week to allow for corroborating or exculpatory evidence to be discovered.
Both Democrats and Republicans on the Judiciary Committee made valid and important points about content and procedure in today’s hearing. Some of those points are (summarized by me) as follows:
Victims of sexual assault deserve to be heard.
Serious allegations deserve to be investigated.
Republicans are over eager to rush a confirmation given the seriousness of allegations leveled against Judge Kavanaugh.
Democrats need to transparently explain why they sat on this information instead of immediately bringing it to the hearing either in closed or open session.
Democrats are rightfully indignant over the majority’s desire to rush through this confirmation without asking for FBI investigation of Dr Ford’s allegations. Republicans’ response to this call tended to be along the lines of “the FBI will just produce a report for us to read” or “the FBI doesn’t determine guilt.” These are true, but I find it troubling that the majority is not even willing to entertain finding more evidence through this means. The committee should want to find the truth. It should use every means necessary to find that truth. And Judge Kavanaugh should, and I believe would, cooperate.
Republicans are also rightfully frustrated, as I see it, with the minority’s apparent lack of action. If the Democrats really cared about getting to the truth, why wait until the last minute to share the information? Why not call for an immediate investigation as soon as evidence was first presented? Why not question Judge Kavanaugh immediately on finding this evidence? Why would you help Dr Ford to find a lawyer and wait to share the information that these allegations existed? It does seem that there is at least some degree of political theater going on here.
These are absolutely serious allegations. A person that has sexually assaulted anyone should not sit on the supreme court (or serve in any position in our government for that matter).
While we should take serious allegations seriously, we must take care to determine when an allegation is credible.Spurious allegations of wrong doing should not be allowed to destroy the lives of honest, good, women and men. This responsibility rests on all of us: the American people, elected leaders, and the press.
Given the seriousness of the allegations and the evidence that was presented in today’s hearing, I believe it is the right thing to do to delay the proceedings for a week to allow for a more thorough, non-partisan, investigation to take place. Directing the FBI to investigate and provide a report is in everyone’s best interest. The American people benefit by seeing our elected leaders care more about the truth than about their agenda. We benefit by preserving the integrity of the court.
An investigation will presumably discover corroborating or exculpatory evidence about these allegations. Corroborating evidence benefits Democrats by allowing them to be the public advocates for Dr Ford as a victim of sexual assault. It benefits Republicans in the same way and also allows them to take the moral high ground and tell the story of how they preserved the credibility of the Supreme Court. Exculpatory evidence benefits Republicans by allowing them to have a more sound footing for their confirmation of Judge Kavanaugh as well as to use the moral high ground narrative. It benefits Democrats similarly but in addition allows them to still take the position of advocates for Dr Ford.
Dr Ford and Judge Kavanaugh both benefit from truth that may be discovered by a delay and investigation. Although an investigation may reveal further truths that are damaging to them in the short term, in the long term the truth is better than a lie for either party.
At the end of the day, this hearing and this confirmation reflect our collective character as Americans. I think that Senator Flake said it best when he said (addressing Judge Kavanaugh):
I am sorry for what has happened to you and your family as I am sorry for what has happened to her’s. This is not a good process but it’s all we’ve got. I would just urge my colleagues to recognize that in the end we are 21 very imperfect senators trying to do our best to provide advice and consent.
In the end there is likely to be as much doubt as certainty going out of this room today. As we make decisions going forward I hope that people will recognize that and in the rhetoric that we use and the language that we use going forward that we’ll recognize that, that there is doubt, we’ll never move beyond that. And just have a little humility on that front.
In the end, it will require deep humility on the part of both Republicans and Democrats to take the right actions in this confirmation process. Each side needs to admit its mistakes and commit to moving forward in an appropriate, respectful, careful, manner.
This morning I got to give a spiritual thought at the Activity Days Camp at church. This is the summer camp for 7-11 year old girls. Their theme was “Growing Toward the Son.”
There is an interesting phenomenon that happens in a lot of plants where they will actually change direction to grow toward the sun. This effect is called phototropism. In very young plants this effect can be observed plainly over a relatively short period of time as shown in this brief video. Notice how the plants react as they grow.
I love the plants in that video that are growing longer and longer and then suddenly topple over as they are straining to get to the light. They don’t ever give up. They don’t think that it’s over just because they’re in a darker place than their neighbors. They consistently push toward the light. Sometime they shake around a bit as if they are unsure, but their course is firmly toward the light — the source of their energy.
We should be like this in our relationship with Christ. We know that we are supposed to be steadfast in our facing toward and focusing on Christ. Christ invites us:
“Look unto me in every thought; doubt not, fear not.Behold the wounds which pierced my side, and also the prints of the nails in my hands and feet; be faithful, keep my commandments, and ye shall inherit the kingdom of heaven.” – D&C 6:36-37
How are we do do this? What does it mean to look unto him in every thought? We need to read our scriptures regularly. We need to say our prayers. We need to partake of the sacrament. We need to learn the principles of the gospel — faith and repentance. We need to love our families.
“We are to ponder and apply the Book of Mormon and the words of prophets. Pray always. Be believing. Serve the Lord with all our heart, might, mind, and strength. We are to pray with all the energy of our hearts for the gift of charity, the pure love of Christ (see Moroni 7:47–48). And above all, we are to be consistent and persistent in following prophetic counsel.” (Henry B. Eyring, Fear Not to Do Good, October 2017)
I know that in doing these little, everyday, things that we can keep our lives focused on the savior. I know that as we do that, we will, eventually, feel the love of the savior. We may be like the plant that falters along the way, but don’t give up. Hold on the way and keep pushing toward the light. He is the light. He is real. He does love us.
Kindness is the essence of greatness and the fundamental characteristic of the noblest men and women I have known. Kindness is a passport that opens doors and fashions friends. It softens hearts and molds relationships that can last lifetimes.